Planning your honeymoon should be a fun, stress-free experience. As a travel lover, I dreamt of a honeymoon inspired by my travels in Asia long before I dreamt of any wedding-related details.

I think some of us may have certain ideas of what a honeymoon should be like based on what we see, but just like your wedding, it’s important to try to avoid being influenced by the mainstream, and do what suits you. Here are a few key considerations that you should think about when beginning your plans:

Personality. This is the most important consideration in my opinion. Are you an adventurer? Do you like to visit museums and landmarks when you visit a new place, or would you rather find yourself laid out at the beach with a book and a drink? Have you traveled abroad before? Did you enjoy it? I once read a blog post about how boring a honeymoon in the Maldives was. The couple ended up binging on Netflix in their villa for a large majority of the vacation. I think it’s safe to say that they should’ve planned an experience that was more suited for their personalities, whether that’s wandering through Rome, a safari in the Serengeti, or a road trip across the US. Think of your ideal trip without the “honeymoon” component and go from there.

Budget. So, you can afford the plane ticket to Bora Bora, but may not have much leftover when you get there. If you’re not used to staying in anything less than five-star hotels, perhaps you should stay a little closer to home and splurge on your accommodations. Check out hotel prices and dining costs before you book a plane ticket, so there are no surprises. Also consider the currency in your destination, if you plan on traveling abroad. Finally, don’t forget to think about the number of days your honeymoon will be. That will play into the food and lodging totals, as well as activities if you plan on incorporating them. If you only have time for a 5-day honeymoon, you don’t want to spend a day traveling each way, or travel somewhere so far away that the time change makes you groggy for the first two days of your trip.

Season. Summer and winter are opposite in the northern and southern hemisphere. If you don’t like cold weather, you may want to reconsider that July South American road trip. Rainy/monsoon season happens during the summer in Asia. Consider the climate and check up on historical weather data prior to deciding on your destination.

Strike a Balance. If there are tours you want to do or important activities, like a cooking class, special excursion, couple’s massage etc. you will definitely want to plan those ahead of time, especially if it’s high season and there will be a lot of tourists. Some people may want to schedule every hour of the trip, but make sure to plan for delays and other unexpected bumps in the road. It’s also good to have some downtime or time to explore - you may get a cool suggestion from a local that you want to check out! For those people who don’t like to plan things ahead of time, it’s good to at least have a list of potential things you may want to do (visit museums, eat at certain restaurants, see specific landmarks), just in case you have a lull in your activities or have issues finding things to do. TripAdvisor is a great tool for finding good suggestions on activities! For certain trips, especially longer ones, I think it’s good to have less of a schedule with just a few plans and allow yourself to be spontaneous, but for a special trip like a honeymoon I think it’s good to have a bit of structure!